Have you ever watched the show Friends? It's usually on TV around midnight, and while I'm not proud of what my sleeping schedule was in college...or my unhealthy addiction to sweet tea, or for that matter the lack of showering in the week leading up to Finals...I was usually still up to watch an episode or two. Also, I played college tennis and had morning workouts at 5:30am. So clearly I was really into making mature decisions.
Anyway, there's a line from Friends where Phoebe says, "I wish I could, but I don't want too." I remember laughing along and thinking how true that statement was. But is it actually? I get it, it's played for laughs in the show, and that's fine. But has anything ever described millennials so well? I want to help because it sounds nice, BUT it interferes with my plans to do whatever I feel like, soooo, that's gonna be a hard pass.
I just hit 28, and I'm right in the thick if the millennial generation. Here's the thing though, I don't want to be. And I'm going to tell you why. I'm also going to point out that I fail on every single one of the points below. #i'mtrying?
Reason 1 - Commitment. We are honestly the WORST at committing. Like, why is "maybe" even a response on Facebook events?? Because, hey, what if something better comes up? I mean, there is that one stupid show on TV that I could just sit here and watch instead. Don't get me wrong, I'm not knocking relaxing or taking time for rest. That's important too. What I'm saying is, follow through. When you say you're going, barring an emergency, go. There's really something to be said for being the type of person people can count on.
Reason 2 - Oversharing. SO GUILTY. We are somehow completely fine with sharing our entire lives with random internet strangers. I do believe there is a place for that, because social media can be a great vehicle for communication, and community. But like, do they need to know that I've used dry shampoo for the fifth day in row? (That has never actually happened. Probably.) No. They don't.
Sidenote: Can we take a second and apply this to dating? I was talking to a guy I met online, and within one day, he had basically told me any and all emotional baggage that he had from his past. He had never met me. And while I'm definitely not a good enough criminal to do that whole catfish thing, he didn't know that. I now know names and information about him that truthfully, should have only been shared with a trusted friend. Sidenote to the sidenote, if you don't want to freak a person out, typically try to stay off of the baggage train for at least the first 24 hours. But I mean, hey, that's just me.
Reason 3. Being Passive/Uninformed. Ok. These two go hand in hand, and both really set me off. Care about SOMETHING worthwhile. And don't just care about it, know WHY you care about it. There is nothing more irritating to me than a social media/social justice warrior who doesn't know the facts behind what they're "fighting" so hard for. Most of my generation falls into one of those traps. Either "everything and anything is fine," or "this is the absolute worst thing ever but I have no idea why." Once you know what you care about, and why...do something about it. Something beyond just posting a pretty picture and cute caption about it, because that drops you right in the middle of the average boat.
Reason 4. Social Media Driven Trends. Weird one, I know. Social media is a place where we are supposed to show our personalities blah blah or whatever right? Ok, fine. But then, out of nowhere, everyone has the same personality. Disclaimer: I am NOT knocking either of the following themes. They're simply used for example's sake.
Exhibit A) Fall. I like Fall too. The hoodies, the pretty leaves, the pumpkin patches. But I don't ever remember giving it more than a passing, oh, Fall has nice weather. Now, people are obsessing over flannel shirts and putting up pumpkins in July and I'm just over here, confused. Exhibit B) Stay at Home Moms. Y'all, I am all about that. I would love to be one myself one day. But like, my mom did it for quite a while, and I don't recall her ever wearing a "mom life" shirt or talking about how she didn't have a life. I know, I know, times are changing, but you get my point right?
Stick with me here. While I think it is 100% fine to share and commiserate and celebrate, and wear a graphic tee(they're actually my favs) together, I think the danger comes in when we feed off of these topics to the point where we didn't even think something was an issue before, but now, it is. Also, in commiserating, it can be dangerous to suddenly start thinking our situation in life is the hardest. All I'm getting at here, is that I think it's important to keep in mind that each person's stage in life has it's own challenges, and make sure we like something because we actually like it.
Reason 5. Essential Oils. I can't even with the essential oil for every single ailment. HOW DOES ONE KEEP UP? (Ok, I heard the wail of millions of millennial women as I typed those words. It's a joke, I promise. Just a joke ;)
And that, my friends, is all for this episode of "Bridget has lots of opinions." Thanks for stopping by!